The Nollywood actress is not having it, and honestly? We stan.
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Nollywood actress Adanma Luke has finally said what many of us have been thinking for a long time — and she delivered it with the kind of energy that deserves a standing ovation.
The actress recently called out those “strategic friends” who somehow always find her contact when it’s time to create a burial WhatsApp group, yet mysteriously develop amnesia when it’s time to add her to the “thank you for coming, here’s your transport fare” group where money is being shared.
The Receipts
Adanma didn’t just fire shots into the air — she came with context. The actress revealed that she recently lost her own father and organised his burial without adding a single soul to any WhatsApp group. Not one person. Because apparently, that is how a considerate human being behaves.
Yet, despite her own restraint and decorum during one of the most painful periods of her life, some people have had the boldness — the audacity — to dump her into random burial groups without so much as a “biko, is this okay?”
The Real Gist We All Understand
Let’s be honest, this is a very Nigerian experience. We have all been there. Your phone buzzes, you check it, and suddenly you are in a WhatsApp group called something like “Mama Chisom Final Journey 🕊️” with 89 other confused people you have never met in your life.
You start getting bombarded with:
– Burial programmes in PDF format
– Asoebi colour codes and fabric vendors
– Voice notes from the family coordinator going on for seven minutes
– And the inevitable: “Please all friends and family, account number is 0123456789, GTBank, Chief Mrs. Obiageli.”
But the moment the burial is done? The moment it’s time to share “thank you” money or mobilisation fees? Suddenly your name is not on the list. Suddenly nobody can find your number. Suddenly you are a stranger again.
Adanma Is Simply Saying What Many Won’t
The actress is not asking for too much. She is asking for basic respect — the kind that says, “If I matter enough to be added to your grief group, I matter enough to be remembered when there are benefits.”
More importantly, she is pushing back against the culture of adding people to WhatsApp groups without their consent. It is 2024, and this remains one of Nigeria’s most persistent social crimes.
If you want to add someone to a group — ask first. A simple “I want to add you to a group, is that okay?” costs nothing but a few seconds of thoughtfulness.
The Lesson Here
Adanma Luke buried her father quietly, with dignity, and without inconveniencing anyone’s phone storage or data. The least others can do is extend that same courtesy — or at the very minimum, remember her number when the “settlement” group is being created.
Because as we say in this our Nigeria: if the soup is sweet, make sure the person who helped you fetch firewood gets a bowl too.
What do you think? Have you ever been added to a burial group without permission? Drop your experience in the comments!
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