Summary: A Ugandan lawyer’s revelation of over 70 divorce cases in one court within a week has sparked serious conversations about modern marriage. Should this change your perspective on tying the knot?
Marriage na sweet thing, abi? The white wedding, the aso-ebi, the jollof rice, and all the Instagram-worthy moments. But wait first—before you start planning that elaborate traditional marriage or church wedding, make you see wetin one lawyer just drop for social media.
Allan Vic, a Ugandan lawyer, recently caused serious commotion online after he shared something that made many people pause and think twice about their wedding plans. The legal practitioner posted a long list containing over 70 divorce cases—and this one na for just one court* and for *one week only!
The Post That Got Everyone Talking
“You still want to get married?” Allan Vic wrote as he shared the extensive list of couples heading to court to end their marriages. The list wasn’t even covering multiple courts or several months—just one single court handling divorce cases for seven days.
For those of us wey never see such thing before, imagine the number of marriages wey don crash for just one week! If you calculate am well, that’s about 10 divorce cases per day in that court alone. Now multiply that by all the courts in Uganda, Nigeria, and across the world. The numbers go shock you.
Why This Matter Concern Nigerians
As Nigerians, we take marriage seriously. In fact, marriage na one of the biggest milestones for our people. Your mama go dey remind you every December. Your aunties go dey ask “when are we eating rice?” at every family gathering. Even your younger siblings sef go begin dey look you one kind if you reach 30 and you never show them your boo.
But with the rate at which marriages dey scatter these days—both here for Naija and abroad—the question wey this lawyer ask dey very valid: Should we still dey rush into marriage?
What Could Be Causing All These Divorces?
While the Ugandan lawyer no break down the reasons for all those divorce cases, we fit guess some of the usual suspects:
1. Social Media Pressure
These days, people dey marry because dem see their mates do big wedding for Instagram. They no dey think about the reality of spending forever with another imperfect human being.
2. Financial Wahala
Money palaver don scatter many marriages. When the economy hard and money no dey flow like before, tension go enter the house.
3. Lack of Understanding
Some people rush into marriage without properly knowing their partner. Na when dem enter, dem go begin see the red flags wey dem ignore during courtship.
4. Infidelity and Trust Issues
Cheating still remain one of the top reasons why marriages dey crash. Once trust comot for marriage, e hard to repair am.
5. Unrealistic Expectations
Nollywood and Hollywood don give people wrong idea about marriage. Real marriage no be like the movies where everything resolve in two hours with happy ending.
Should This List Scare You Away From Marriage?
The answer na yes and no.
Yes, the list should make you think well before you marry. Marriage na serious commitment wey require maturity, patience, sacrifice, and plenty work from both people. If you no ready for that level of responsibility, make you wait small.
No, the list no suppose stop you from finding love and building a home with the right person. Many marriages still dey work. Many couples still dey happy together, supporting each other through thick and thin. You no go see their matter for divorce court list.
What You Fit Learn From This Revelation
Instead of using this lawyer’s post as excuse to avoid commitment forever, make we learn some lessons:
1. Choose Wisely
No rush. Date properly. Ask questions. Meet their family. Observe how they handle stress, money, and disagreements. You dey look for life partner, not just wedding partner.
2. Work on Yourself First
Before you marry another person, make sure say you don work on yourself. You get emotional maturity? You don heal from past relationships? You fit compromise and communicate well?
3. Marry for the Right Reasons
No marry because of age pressure, because your mates don marry, or because person get money. Marry because you genuinely love the person and you ready to build life together.
4. Invest in Your Marriage
The work no stop after wedding day. You need to keep investing time, energy, love, and effort into your marriage every single day.
5. Seek Help When Needed
If wahala enter your marriage, no wait until e reach divorce stage. Go for counseling. Talk to trusted mentors. Pray together. Fight for your marriage.
The Bottom Line
Yes, over 70 divorce cases in one week for one court na serious matter wey go make person think twice. But e no mean say marriage don spoil finish or say you no go fit get your own happy ending.
The truth be say marriage na beautiful thing when you do am right, with the right person, at the right time, and for the right reasons. E no be by force. If you no ready, wait. If you ready, choose wisely and commit fully.
So back to the lawyer’s question: “You still want to get married?”
The answer na your own to give. But whatever you choose, make sure say you dey go into am with open eyes, ready mind, and willing heart to do the work wey marriage requires.
What you think? This list don change your mind about marriage, or you still dey plan your big day? Make we hear your thoughts for the comment section!
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