Summary: Nollywood actress Idia Aisien breaks down in tears while sharing her painful experiences of financially supporting boyfriends who betrayed her trust, in a candid conversation with Toke Makinwa.
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Nigerian actress and model Idia Aisien recently left many viewers emotional after she opened up about the heartbreak she’s experienced from relationships where she financially supported men, only to be betrayed.
In a raw and emotional sit-down with media personality Toke Makinwa, Idia couldn’t hold back her tears as she recounted how her generosity was repaid with deceit and disappointment.
The Pain of Giving From the Heart
During the interview, Idia revealed that she has given money—running into millions of naira—to men she dated in the past, believing she was investing in their future together. According to her, these men would claim their businesses were struggling, and as someone who was dating with marriage in mind, she felt compelled to support them.
“I used to give men money. They will say their business is bad. I will give them a couple of million. Now I am just like…” she began, her voice breaking with emotion.
Idia explained her reasoning: “You know, you are dating for marriage and you don’t want the guy to not do well. If he is trying to invest in something that is not growing… you know how they always say there is ups and downs for guys. So if you help the guy in the beginning, then later when the guy is up, he will now also help you. How he treats you is dependent on how you treat him.”
The Dubai Betrayal That Broke Her
The actress then shared a particularly painful experience that left many Nigerians shaking their heads in disbelief.
She recounted how she gave one boyfriend money for his supposed business venture, only to discover he had used the funds to fly another woman business class to Dubai (or South Africa, she couldn’t quite remember which).
“There was this guy I gave money and then I remember all of a sudden his phone wasn’t going through. I was trying to reach him. He then explained to me his phone wasn’t working… blah… blah… blahh… and then I found out he had flown a popular girl business class to Dubai or South Africa at the time,” Idia narrated.
She continued: “He claimed he was in Lagos but that his phone was having issues. It was one of my brothers that told me ‘your boyfriend is here with a babe’ and I was like ‘no, it’s not possible. He is in Lekki.’ My brother was like ‘are you mad?’ My brother now sent me a picture.”
When confronted with the evidence, the boyfriend’s excuse was equally shocking: “When I now told him he was in Dubai, he now goes ‘no babe, my friends dragged me.’ I said but I just gave you money for business and he was like ‘it’s even for the business thing they dragged him.'”
Toke Makinwa’s Strong Stance
Toke Makinwa, known for her no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, strongly disagreed with Idia’s past choices.
According to the media personality, until a woman has a ring on her finger, a man’s financial struggles are entirely his own business.
“You don’t have a ring on your finger, so that man’s destiny has nothing to do with you! If it is up, down, sideways, back, left, right… that is his motherf#cking business,” Toke declared emphatically.
When Idia asked what a woman should do when she has a lot of money and her man needs help, Toke’s response was clear: offer emotional support and encouragement, but keep your money.
“All you can afford to do is give him the motivation he needs and say positive things to him, but your money will never be part of it,” Toke advised. She added that she has cousins and other relatives who, if given money, would pray for her growth—implying that charity should begin at home, not with an unproven boyfriend.
A Conversation Many Nigerian Women Relate To
Idia’s emotional confession has sparked conversations across Nigerian social media, with many women sharing similar experiences of financially supporting men who later disappointed them.
The age-old debate of whether women should financially support their boyfriends continues to divide opinion, but Idia’s story serves as a cautionary tale about the importance of protecting yourself emotionally and financially in relationships.
While love and support in relationships are important, many are now asking: where do we draw the line between helping a partner and being taken advantage of?
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